Do gay twins ever mess around with each other

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Dear Prudence, My fraternal twin and I both men are in our late 30s. We were always extremely close and shared a bedroom growing up. When we were 12 we gradually started experimenting sexually with each other. After a couple of years, we realized we had fallen in love.

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We knew this could ruin our lives, so we made a pact to end it. We attended schools far apart and limited our contact to family holidays. But we never fell out of love with each other, so after graduation we moved in together and have been living very discreetly as a monogamous couple ever since.

Our dilemma is how to deal with our increasingly nosy family and friends. I feel we should continue being discreet for the rest of our lives and blow off their questions. My brother, though, is exhausted with this charade. Is this one of those times when honesty is not the best policy?

If so, how do we get everyone to stop worrying we will die alone? Could we go to prison? He said that while incest is generally illegal in most jurisdictions, the laws tend to be enforced in a way that would protect minors, prevent sexual abuse, and address imbalances of power.

Next, I suggest that you and your brother split the difference in your approach to family and friends. Blowing people off for the next couple of decades is only going to fan the flames of curiosity. But I also agree with you that having a family gathering in which you announce you two have found life partners—each other—will give everyone the vapors.

Ultimately your choice is your business, but a limited version of the truth should back everyone off. Say no brothers could be more devoted or compatible, and neither of you can imagine wanting to change what you have.