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Imagine having a reciprocating relationship with someone who knows how to touch you and how to talk to you, who will never abuse you or take away your consent. Imaging feeling powerful, safe, like the default rather than the specific or second-class. Imagine not requiring special handling by awkward, inconsiderate men who were never taught any better.

Imagine being allowed to touch and enjoy and indulge without apprehension. Imagine being able to trust your partner. I have wondering about this in fandom for many years and reading this just made me tear up. I figured this was a big reason, but breaking it down to this extent made me so extremely sad.

I realized a long time ago that even if I met the nicest guy in the world, I still have to battle all those things mentioned above. Just being friends is hard. If you have all of the above with someone of the opposite sex then you are really lucky. See women are expected to give all those things listed above and settle for not getting them in return.

This world raises us to believe we are worth absolutely nothing. The idea of being equal is one of our greatest fantasies. But on the other hand, slash writers are some of the most empathetic people I know. A good slash fanfiction writer can help women understand their desires and overcome some of those feelings of shame and worthlessness.

Yeah, oh man. This is. Yeah, this is a lot. Like in some ways, I am always hesitant to appreciate sexiness in women because we are almost never shown female sexuality in a safe, respectful, and equal way and it still freaks me out. And, while not all of our happiness — together and separately — can be laid at the feet of the various slash goddesses, quite a lot of it can be.

A process. A continuum. A spectrum. Because we made it that way. Every day.

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Oh, hey, Te, is that this essay, by any chance? Because I have been hanging on to that link for eleven years and still find cause to share it with people on a pretty regular basis. Thank you so much dirtydirtychai!! We need these essays - they are part of our history and part of our validation.

Think about how many girls have learned how to masturbate thanks to slash fanfiction. Thank you :.